DEAR ABBY: I used to be just lately identified with breast most cancers and I’m present process chemotherapy. My youngsters are nonetheless in class. I’ve misplaced all my hair and put on a wig when out in the neighborhood. It carefully approximates my pre-cancer coiffure, besides it’s a bit shorter with highlights.
Acquaintances have seen me at occasions, and complimented me on my hair. Some have requested questions reminiscent of, “Did you do one thing completely different together with your hair? It seems to be nice!” and, “Your hair seems to be so completely different. Did you do one thing new?” I choose to not share my analysis with these people. One particular person even started touching my hair! What’s the applicable response? After I replied, “Thanks,” they stared at me, anticipating extra of a proof. – Wig Wearer In Sacramento, Calif.
DEAR WIG WEARER: You aren’t obligated to debate your medical data with “acquaintances.” “Thanks” ought to have been sufficient. Nonetheless, as a result of it wasn’t, I’m guessing the individuals doing the probing most likely realized you have been carrying a wig.
I mentioned your query with Piny of Beverly Hills, a longtime wig-maker to performers in present enterprise in addition to most cancers sufferers. He instructed me that dealing with the query might be so simple as saying you noticed it on-line or in a store, thought it was cute and have been having fun with carrying it. Throughout our dialog, he shared one other tidbit: Many individuals put on wigs and extensions nowadays, for quite a lot of causes. So many adults have uninteresting or thinning hair that your wholesome, shiny locks are considerably uncommon, which can be why individuals have been quizzing you.
That stated, take into account carrying your wig to a magnificence salon and speaking with a stylist about what you’re encountering. Wigs that aren’t custom-made can have a lot hair that they don’t look pure – notably if the wearer didn’t have thick hair to start with. An excellent stylist might be able to skinny the wig for you so it seems to be extra pure.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been residing with a secret for greater than 17 years. I’ve a little bit sister and brother who assume I’m their cousin. My father doesn’t need me to inform his spouse or them the reality: He’d had an affair with my mom whereas he was engaged, and I used to be the outcome.
My father and I ended speaking a 12 months in the past. Since I now not have to fret about disappointing him, I really feel that is the correct time to inform them. What do you assume? Can I inform them now and presumably begin some kind of relationship with them? They’re of their mid- to late-20s now. – Secret Baby
DEAR SECRET CHILD: As a result of your half-siblings at the moment are adults, I see no purpose why you will need to stay silent and proceed to guard your father. Nonetheless, as a result of you’ve NOT had an in depth relationship with them, I’m cautioning you that your information will not be obtained warmly or thought to be “good” information, notably by their mom.